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The Lost Art of the Thank You Note: Give Honest, Sincere Appreciation

By Caug124 on May 10th, 2012
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Writing a sincere thank you note is one of the professional skills that can make a lasting favorable impression. People like being appreciated. One of Dale Carnegie’s fundamental human relation principles is “Give honest, sincere appreciation.” When writing a thank you note, use a plain, small card. However, the card is not as important as the effort, so if paper is all that is available, write the note anyway! Use this 6-step formula as a sure-fire method of expressing appreciation in a written note.

1. Greet the Giver: Dear Mr. and Mrs. Smith OR Dear Jamie. It seems like an obvious point, yet many people will begin a note with “Hi” or even omit the greeting.

2. Express Gratitude: Thank you so much for the book. The key is to keep it simple and specific. The point of writing the note is to create an expression of a heartfelt sentiment.

3. Discuss Use: I started to read the book immediately and have found many great ideas already. People like to know that you found their gesture or gift valuable. Sharing how you are using the item or idea makes their effort more meaningful.

4. Another Thank You: Thank them again for the gift. It’s not excessive to say thanks again.

5. Complimentary Close: Wrap it up with a close that expresses your final thought: Regards, All the Best, Sincerely, Gratefully, etc. Then sign your name.

6. Send It: Even if your colleagues and acquaintances are not of the note-writing variety, be the one who sets the precedent.

It is the mark of a true professional to become skilled at writing thank you notes in this age of email, voicemail, and text messaging.

Demonstrating business professionalism is not difficult; it just takes effort and focus. Applying simple aspects of business etiquette goes a long way in establishing our professionalism, which builds our confidence and comfort in business settings.

The Five Drivers of Successful Sales Leadership

By Caug124 on May 4th, 2012
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1. Self-Direction

To be an effective manager of salespeople, begin with yourself. Maintain a positive attitude and a proactive approach to people and situations when leading a successful sales team. Being accountable for the sales of an organization can be a high-stress responsibility. An effective leader is continuously and consciously in the process of becoming a better leader and putting systems in place that create results.

2. People Skills

As an effective sales leader, you must build trust, respect, and rapport before attempting to influence others, their attitudes, their behavior, or their performance. Effective sales leaders project a concern for others, want to understand what motivates the people they manage, and are skilled at motivating peak performance.

3. Process Skills

To manage other sales people effectively, you must recognize the need for processes that will yield repeatable sales results. Many people get into sales because they are good at building relationships. Help the people you manage capitalize on their relationship building skills by developing an effective process to harness those relationships.

4. Communication

Effective communication successfully connects people and processes. Effective leaders place a high value on creating real understanding. They actively seek suggestions and input. They demonstrate the ability to motivate others and are able to successfully persuade others.

5. Accountability

Effective sales leaders know how to close the gap between expected performance quotas and actual results. They hold themselves accountable for both personal and team results. The people they manage respect their ability to coach and mentor to achieve organizational goals.

Attitude Control to Reduce Stress

By Caug124 on April 26th, 2012
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Your third opportunity for new work habits concerns your attitude control. When you get your work attitudes under control, every other aspect of your work improves. Try to implement these attitude-control concepts to streamline your work habits.

1. Connect with Coworkers and Use Their Names

It’s easy to become so self-focused in a workday that you start to tune out your coworkers. This can add to a feeling of isolation and stress at work. It is better from a stress standpoint to reach out and greet others, learn their names, and maybe even win friends in the process.

2. Let Things Go

There comes a time when you recognize that the best solution is to relax and accept that you can’t have everything turn out perfectly every time. If you feel like you are experiencing too much stress in a situation, ask yourself, “Is this a situation where I should just let go?” or “Does this need to be perfect?” The answer may surprise you.

3. Take Charge

Your attitudes improve when you take charge of situations and accomplish a goal. At the very least, you can take charge of your own workload, relationships, and attitude. When you hesitate or procrastinate, you undermine your energy and make your work more stressful than it has to be.

4. Stay Calm

Whatever it takes – counting to 10, taking deep breaths, going for a walk, or doing a quick meditation, concentrate on staying calm. Avoid overreacting, lashing out, or acting impulsively, which only adds to your stress level.

5. Appreciate the Uniqueness in Others

As much as you sometimes feel that way, you really would not like it if everyone was just like you at the workplace. It would be boring. Differences in backgrounds, perspectives, and work styles make the workplace more interesting and vibrant, not less. Work on appreciating the unique strengths of others and the richness they bring to your life.

Organization to Reduce Stress

By Caug124 on April 19th, 2012
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The second best way to reduce work stress is to stay organized in managing your workload. Which of these productive work habits do you utilize in organizing your work?

1. Simplify Your Approach

What could you start doing, stop doing, or do differently to simplify your work approach? You may be inadvertently making your work more complicated than it needs to be.

2. Drop Unnecessary Activities

Make a list of each activity in your workday and week, from driving the car to sitting in meetings. Which activities are not necessary? Can you drop any of them? Try dropping those activities for a week or a month, and track any changes in your results at work. You may be surprised by how much more efficient you can be.

3. Write Things Down

Do you have one notebook or planner where you write down ideas as they strike you, commitments as you make them, or other important notes? You will feel less stressed when you know that you have captured important information and can reference it when you need it later.

4. Create and Follow Agendas

One common area of workplace disorganization is in conducting one-on-one or group meetings. Agendas, especially when sent ahead of time, make meetings more organized and productive and help make participants more comfortable and confident about the meeting.

5. Finish One Task Before Starting Another

A major source of disorganization at work comes from excessive multi-tasking. If you stay focused on a particular task and see it through to its completion, you will get it done quicker and you will stay far more organized than if you attempt to multitask your way through a bunch of chores.

Getting Rid of the Stress of Public Speaking

By Caug124 on April 12th, 2012
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Getting Rid of the Stress of Public Speaking

Many people are terrified of speaking in front of a group. Many of us can accomplish it, but feel a certain amount of fear and stress. Speaking in front of groups does not have to be stressful or nerve racking; instead, the experience can help you stand out and get noticed. Here are some tips that will help you fight through your anxiety and deliver an effective presentation:

Prepare, Prepare, Prepare. If you have a complete understanding of your material, you will definitely give you an advantage during your presentation. Do not memorize your material; you just need to be familiar with it.

Open with Confidence. Your opening gives your audience a first impression of your presentation. Make sure not to leave anything to chance. Your opening sets the tone for your entire presentation.

Focus on a Few Key Points. Know the major points you want to make. This will help ease your worry and increase your confidence. You should also use electronic visuals, note cards, or memory techniques to outline your key concepts.

Support Ideas with Evidence. It is always important to provide evidence to support your main points. Supporting evidence will help your audience understand your points and will give you a chance to explain your points more fully.

Close with a Call to Action. This will be the last impression your audience has of you and your presentation. It is important to ensure the closing reflects the purpose of the presentation. Your closing should summarize your content and give your audience a clear direction.

Control Your Stress in the Workplace

By Caug124 on April 5th, 2012
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Control Your Stress in the Workplace

Pressure situations are present during both good and bad economic times.  However, when times are tough the situations can be magnified.  Problems at home can directly influence issues in the workplace.  It is important as a manager to recognize that your team might have outside stressors affecting their job performance.  It is your job to create an environment that reduces stress and promotes engagement.  In a workplace environment like this, employees will be more apt to reach their full potential and drive results.  Here are 8 tips to help you and your team control stress and worry in tough situations:

1. Live in a compartment of the present.

    The professional with a commitment to service seals off each interaction with a customer so that negative experiences don’t poison future interactions. Don’t allow past successes or failures or future anticipated success or difficulties influence your current performance. When it comes to customer service, live in the moment.

    2. Don’t fuss about trifles.

      A “trifle” is something that is insignificant in comparison to other things in your life. When you focus on trifles, you lose perspective. Keep the big picture in mind. Doing so will help you objectively sort out the small stuff from the important issues.

      3. Cooperate with the inevitable.

        Realize when your situation is inevitable. If you can learn to recognize situations where you have no control, you can gain some control over the emotional aspects of the situation. By cooperating with the outcome, you are making a conscious choice about how to respond to an inevitable situation.

        4. Decide just how much anxiety a situation is worth and refuse to give it any more of your energy.

          Once you make this decision, it is easier to find ways you can improve on the situation or let it go and move on.

          5. Create happiness for others.

            This principle appeals to your nobler motives. It is difficult to sustain a negative attitude when you are doing something good or helpful for someone else. Simply put: Doing good for others makes you feel better.

            6. Expect ingratitude.

              In your job, you provide many diverse services. When you do so, you probably expect in return some signal of gratitude for your assistance. This expectation is rarely met. If you do receive heartfelt thanks from someone, you should count yourself lucky; you are dealing with a grateful person. Most people are simply not accustomed to being grateful, even when you provide them with excellent service. You shouldn’t let ingratitude deter you from providing top-quality service.

              7. Put enthusiasm into your work.

                Enthusiasm is the positive energy and sustained effort that keeps you driving toward your goals. Making a decision to have a positive outlook can be critical in enjoying your job and working with your internal and external customers.

                8. Do the very best you can.

                  It can be difficult to deal with criticism, especially if you feel it is undeserved or if it hurts your self-esteem. One way to put criticism in perspective is to ask yourself if you are doing the very best you can with what you know and are able to do. If you are, then you can avoid taking the criticism personally. If there is room for improvement in your performance, you can look at the criticism objectively and take responsibility for improving your performance.

                  Win-Win Negotiation Tips for Managers

                  By Caug124 on April 2nd, 2012
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                  As managers, the ability to use win-win negotiations skills can make all the difference in negotiating success. Likewise, it can be essential when influencing coworkers and facilitating constructive, positive relationships. Here are 6 things that managers should think about when preparing for a negotiation.

                  • Know what you wantAs a manager, it’s important that you go into a negotiation knowing what you want as the end result. Make sure you put a lot of time and thought into what you want and why you want it. Remember that it is important for you to consider what’s in it for you financially, emotionally, intellectually, physically, etc. Knowing what you don’t want will also help you while going deeper into negotiations.

                  • Know what your counterpart wantsYour counterpart will also have an agenda when he or she enters the negotiation. Make it a point to understand beforehand what he or she wants the conclusion of this negotiation to be. Understand the financial, emotional, intellectual or physical resolution that he or she is looking to walk away with.
                  • Anticipate objections The negotiation process is not always easy.  As a manager, you have to understand that you will meet some objections from your employee along the way. You need to prepare yourself for this by doing your due diligence prior to the negotiation. Make sure that you have relevant evidence at your fingertips with which the other party can identify and relate to.
                  • Identify concessions Determine your absolute non-negotiable items and desirables and what you are willing to give and take. You are certainly not going to walk away from every negotiation with all of your needs satisfied. Negotiations are all about the give and take, and as a manager you need to be prepared to meet your employee half way.
                  • Determine your “walk-away” When you determine your “walk-away,” you define the point at which there is no need to proceed with the negotiation. Prior to the start of the negotiations, you must ascertain your own “walk away” point.  This will be your single most important source of negotiating power, so once your “walk away” point is met, you need to make sure you take action.
                  • Practice with a partner As is the case with any important presentation you have ever made, you always want to practice. You could be faced with a difficult discussion and it is always best to make sure you rehearse possible outcomes. By practicing with someone else you will build your confidence with the situation and it will ultimately help the negotiation run as smoothly as possible.

                  Participating in Teams During Change

                  By Caug124 on March 26th, 2012
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                  One way you can contribute to your team during change is to keep your attitudes positive and focused.  These principles give you direction in keeping your attitude centered on team success. 

                   

                  1.       Support each other

                  During periods of change, you sometimes feel like you are on a tightrope without a net.  Even though other members of the team may be experiencing the same change, you tend to feel isolated and alone during organizational change. Make a commitment to express support to everyone else on the team, and let them know that the whole team is in this effort together. If you give unconditional support to your fellow team members, you will receive support in return.

                  2.       Communicate expectations

                  The best way to break out of isolation is to communicate openly, honestly, and often.  What are your expectations of each other as a team? What are your expectations of the team effort and the results that you can produce? Commit to discussing these expectations and applying the highest levels of listening to one another. In this way, all members of the team can unite in a common purpose.

                  3.       Have fun

                  Let’s face it. Sometimes you take yourself a little too seriously. Sure, you are engaged in serious, demanding team efforts during periods of organizational change, but teamwork at its highest level is fast paced, engaging, and fun. Many of us feel that the most exciting and rewarding efforts in our work are team efforts. Let’s make a commitment to make teamwork during change enjoyable and fun, rather than dreary and dull.

                  4.       Find efficiencies

                  One of the advantages of working on a team is that you can capitalize on the individual strengths of your team members. You don’t have to do everything or even know everything when you are on a team. Focus on utilizing individual team member skills, experience, and abilities to achieve a high level of team efficiency and accomplishment. 

                  5.       Build competitive team spirit

                  You can take tremendous pride in being a member of high-achieving teams. As you set and achieve goals, why not compete with each other and push each other and the team to an ever-higher level of performance? When you tap into your competitive spirit, you unite as a team and reach higher levels of success.

                  6.       Think big

                  Maybe the changes that you are undergoing as a team will be the best thing that ever happened to each of you. Maybe you will come through the change so successfully that you will achieve team recognition. Instead of viewing yourselves as merely surviving the change, think big and imagine the organizational change as a springboard to greater individual and team success.

                  Effective First Impressions

                  By Caug124 on March 13th, 2012
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                  The critical first step in the customer service process is meeting and greeting the customer.  Those vital first moments with the customer set the tone for the entire interaction. By energetically and professionally welcoming your customer, you make successful customer interactions not only possible, but probable. Customers want to be recognized, appreciated, and treated with courtesy and understanding. For this to happen, you have to be at your best in the meet and greet stage of the service process. You need to know what your customers want. 

                  Each customer is different, but certain basic principles apply to nearly all customers, and you can safely assume that most customers are looking for the same things in their interactions with you.

                   1.   To be treated with courtesy:

                  Even rude people dislike being treated rudely. Common courtesies go a long way towards expressing respect to your customers. Good manners, like saying “please” and “thank you,” listening attentively, and expressing understanding, are courtesies that nearly everyone appreciates.

                  2.       To be heard:

                  Every customer has a unique situation, issue, and desired resolution. Even though a customer’s circumstances may seem identical to the circumstances of many other customers, each customer typically still wants to talk through their issues, and your role is to listen.

                  3.       To get what they want quickly:

                  Customers are on the move today, and you are just one stop on their list of errands. While there are exceptions to this preference, you can assume that the faster you address the customer’s issues, the happier they will be.

                  4.       To be satisfied with their transaction:

                  Every customer wants a satisfactory end result and a hassle-free encounter with a customer service professional. Your primary goal in serving the customer is to leave them feeling positive about your organization.

                  5.       To deal with someone who is knowledgeable:

                  Customers come to you for your expertise, advice, and experience, as well as for the products and services that you provide. They expect you to be able to answer their questions or know where to find answers.

                  6.       To deal with a decision maker:

                  A customer’s life is easier if one person can provide answers and make decisions about the resolution of the problem. Customers don’t want to have to repeat their requests over and over as they are referred to other people for decisions.

                  7.       To be appreciated:

                  Customers have a wide range of options. You should never take for granted their willingness to do business with your organization. It takes little time to express your appreciation for their business, and it sends a positive, reinforcing message to the customer.

                  The Coaching Process

                  By Caug124 on March 2nd, 2012
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                  The Coaching Process

                  Coaching is a major responsibility for every manager, and for many people, it can be a major challenge. Managers need to be able to maintain performance standards, be certain people are following policies and procedures, and hit individual and team targets—through other people.

                  Step One:  Identify the Opportunity

                  There are five ways to identify opportunities.

                  1. You identify an opportunity for another person.
                  2. An individual identifies an opportunity for themselves.
                  3. A customer, vendor, or other outsider identifies an opportunity.
                  4. You identify new skills needed within your team.
                  5. A situation creates an opportunity.

                  These different opportunities may arise due to a new need or out of taking on a new job or project that requires a new skill, or they may come out of a performance review or be identified after a mistake occurs. Multiple opportunities arise for people on your team, and it is your job as a manager to prioritize those needs to keep others on your team from getting overwhelmed by the possibilities. Jot down some opportunities that you see for yourself or for others in your workplace. Are you the right person to point out these needs? What is the best way to do so?

                  Step Two:  Picture the Desired Outcome

                  Once the opportunity is identified, it is important to take the time and pinpoint what the situation will look like when the gap is filled. This is the step that many people skip or don’t develop fully, which can lead to confusion, misunderstanding, and frustration for everyone. One of the most important concepts in coaching is having a vision or end goal in mind. Without that, people often lose sight of the importance of making the needed changes. How we create this picture of what is possible is the central component of this step in the coaching process. People with a clear vision of the end result of coaching tend to move in that direction more quickly than those without. It is crucial that both the coach and the trainee own the goal. Without that sense of ownership, coach or trainee may lose motivation. We focus on motivation and buy-in even more in the next step of the process, but this is where direction and motivation really begin.

                  Step Three:  Establish the Right Attitudes

                  How well you really know your team may determine how quickly you know if you have the right trainee for the job and are able to gage their motivation. This step is a critical part of the process of effective coaching. Without it, you spend a great deal of your time just overcoming resistance.

                  You often hear that people resist change. It isn’t true. People resist being changed when they:
                  Don’t see the need, Don’t want to do it, Believe that the change is not possible for them

                  In this step, you should focus on some of the skills required to cut resistance and move through the coaching process with less friction. These skills are: Leadership, Communication, Building trust, Getting commitment vs. compliance

                  Step Four:  Provide the Resources

                  In order for a coaching process to be successful, it is important the appropriate resources available. This includes time and, most importantly, a personal commitment to succeed from everyone. Other resources may include money, equipment, training, information, and upper level buy-in and support. Ensure that the appropriate resources are in place and available. Nothing is a frustrating as being promised something and then not getting it. It can make everyone feel like they have been set up to fail.

                  Step Five:  Practice & Skill Development

                  Once the resources are in place and the correct skill set has been identified, explained, and demonstrated, it is now time for the trainee to practice and apply what has been learned. For knowledge to evolve into a skill, you must practice it and perfect the skill with the help of a coach, who can ensure that you are practicing the new skill and not the old habit.

                  Practice also allows the coach to identify strengths and opportunities for improvement.

                  • How to encourage others to success
                  • How closely to monitor and when to let go
                  • How to hold others accountable for progress

                  Step Six:  Reinforce Progress

                  Making progress is one thing, but without a way to reinforce and maintain it, people may quickly go back to their old habits. One of the biggest fallacies managers hold on to is the assumption that if people know something, they will do it. People don’t do what they know; they do what they have always done.

                  Try to use these strategies to reinforce learned skills: Empowering people to get results after they have learned new skills, Giving the right kind of feedback, Following up, Handling nonperformance issues, Handling mistakes and people who get off track

                  Step Seven:  Reward

                  One of the best ways to cement growth and progress is to reward it. Rewarded behavior is repeated, and what gets repeated becomes habit. But change can be uncomfortable. That is why people often revert to their habits if reinforcement and reward are not motivating forces. Habit is stronger than knowledge. To ensure that change happens quickly and is kept in place as long as needed, celebration and reward are important.

                  Some of the skills you put into coaching in this step of the process are: Praise and recognition, Positive feedback techniques, Recognizing people’s strengths and accomplishments, Having the right credibility and impact in the delivery